650 Words

A year ago today, the 650 Blog began with Molly Morrison’s post “ Directionless Floating .” To mark the one-year anniversary, I first made a word cloud of all of the posts that have appeared in the blog.  See above.  The larger the word, the more often it appears in the writing.  Is it any wonder that "school" and "life" are so big?  After that, I went back and read all of the posts with a notebook at my side. I was looking for themes, motifs, common issues and concerns. What follows is a highly subjective list that amounts to “Six Things I Have Learned” from a year’s worth of 650 blog entries. The blog already contains some good lists of this sort: Lauren Lilly’s “ Five Things I Thought in High School that Turned Out Not to be True ” or Alex Deddeh’s comical “ Six Ways to Succeed in College ,” or Alex Santiago DiBiaso's “ Go All In .” This is my list, what I have learned, and it is complete with links to the referenced posts for anyone who wants to p

Louisa Frahm graduated from high school in 2008 as a certified floater. A lot of the posts on the 650 blog make the case for embracing your true self. It’s great advice, but practically speaking it can be a real challenge. How is it possible to “fit in” and “be yourself” at the same time? The term “fitting in” implies that you would make yourself into the shape of the thing that fits -- which in this context would mean emphasizing and deemphasizing specific parts of your personality in different social settings with different people. This is common, natural, and mostly normal, in high school and everywhere else. The problem comes when the desire to fit in becomes your North Star -- and you look in the mirror and nobody looks back … because you are playing a role for everyone. Louisa writes here about how being a floater can allow you to do an end-run around this need to fit in. Rather than worrying about being accepted by this or that group -- in high school and beyo

Cassidy Lichtman graduated from Parker in 2007 as the most decorated volleyball player in school history. She talks about volleyball in her post, but she really gets at something bigger and more applicable to everyone: listening to the voice in your head. Cass’s piece reminds me of a poem I love, Mary Oliver’s “The Journey” (here’s a link if you’re interested). Oliver writes about the process by which we quiet other voices as we begin to embrace our own identities. “But little by little,” Oliver writes as you left their voices behind, the stars began to burn through the sheets of clouds, and there was a new voice which you slowly recognized as your own. Cassidy writes about recognizing and then trusting this voice in your head. For Cass, it is a voice that has certainly not led her astray. After graduating from high school, she went on to Stanford where she graduated in 2011 with a BA in Political Science and an MA in History. In terms of volleyball, Cass has achi

In 2015 the senior awards ceremony was the Olivia Ghosh Show. A fantastic student who had earned the respect of teachers in all disciplines, she walked away from that assembly with a stunning array of medals, plaques, and awards. With a perfect transcript, a wagon full of trophies, and an acceptance letter from Columbia, Olivia had more external validation than she knew what to do with. Everything was perfect. And yet…. Things weren’t perfect. Olivia’s post is all about the “yet.” I will let Olivia tell her story, but I am struck by how many of our Superkids have struggled and continue to struggle. To the world, they project confidence, self-awareness, even joy. Behind the well-practiced smile, however, they are often engaged in intense struggles with loneliness, self-worth, and depression. Look back over the 650 blog posts. A good number fall into this category (see Natalie Schmidt , Rickey Leary , Emma Moore , Victoria Ralston , Molly Lavin for a few examples). Olivia